Navigating Boys.
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that understanding boys is like trying to solve a 10-Piece puzzle blindfolded. Confusing? Yes. Impossible? Not really. I’ll explain how.
Boys arenβt all that different from us girlies. They have their own interests, little quirks, and even things that drive them up the wall. Honestly, boys arenβt as complicated as they sometimes seemβonce you take the time to get to know them for who they really are.
Of course, every boy has his own unique personality, and I canβt speak for all of them. But if thereβs one thing Iβve learned over the years from my many friendships with boys, itβs that they often donβt get as much credit as they actually deserve.
I’m not here to “glaze” or over validate any gender, I’m simply stating an opinion over something I’ve observed over the years. Boys can be a bit confusing, yes, but if you got to know one a little better, you’d realise he’s got so much more to offer. If this is something you agree with, then I suggest reading further because today’s post is all about boys!
What’s his deal anyway?
As a girl, Iβve definitely found myself in the middle of βcrushesβ and βsituationships,β and honestly, I think itβs safe to say theyβre rarely worth the stress. Feelings come and go, thatβs just life. And the sooner we realize that, the easier it gets to not let every little thing get to us.
Boys are human too. They have their highs and lows, and they feel just about every emotion we do theyβre often just better at hiding it. So whether Jeremiah hasnβt texted you back or Conrad is ghosting you for no apparent reason, donβt let it weigh you down. Life is way too big and beautiful to get stuck on a text that never came.
I know sometimes it gets confusing, trust me, Iβve been there. Not knowing the βright timeβ to call or text or even just reach out to see how theyβre doing. It gets pretty complicated sometimes. But even in all that, youβre only human. If this boy really values you, you wouldnβt need to think of the right time to text or callβit would just come naturally.
Because hereβs the truth: when someone truly wants you in their life, they make space for you. You wouldn’t have to overthink every word, or emoji. Real friendships, and even relationships, flow without you constantly questioning your worth.
So instead of stressing over what you βshouldβ say or whether youβre being βtoo much,β focus on being your genuine self. If he appreciates you for who you are, then it will show. If not, that silence is an answer too. And while it may hurt, it clears the way for the right people who will match your energy. As the saying goes: Silence speaks louder than words.
At the end of the day, the right people donβt leave you guessing or wondering whether your text seems dry or not. Boys weren’t made to be confusing, they were made to be a companion, a friend and even a suitor in the faraway future.
What I’ve learned:
The truth is, boys can be funny, caring, frustrating, and unpredictable, all in the same day. And while itβs tempting to put them all in one box, the reality is, every boy is different. Some are mature beyond their years, while others still laugh at the most absurd things.
So, anytime you feel like a boy isn’t reciprocating your energy, just remember you are the vibe you give off (in most cases). If you’re doing all that you can and you feel the energy isn’t being matched, that’s not on you. You’re only human after all.
Like I said earlier, boys are humans too. Humans with feelings. So don’t go around angry because someone’s son hasn’t texted you back. He might just be waiting for you to make the first move!
And that’s a wrap! Tysm for reading and as always, leave thoughts/suggestions below or just advice you’d want to give me or someone else who needs it. With that being said, have a stress-free day. <3